Lately there has been a good amount of frustration within the chronic illness community. Much of that surrounds a level of bullying that shouldn’t exist for us. After all, most of us are working towards the same goal – raising awareness and promoting research opportunities to get closer to remission and to cures. Why does it feel like everyone is turning on each other?
Why is it okay to give condolences to parents who have lost their children several times a year until the end of the world, but we feel open to telling those who’ve lost their friends to get over it at some point? Or that no one cares?
Why is it okay for people to tell you to just ‘get over’ incredibly huge events in your life? Or move past them? There’s a HUGE amount of work involved in that.
Why do some bloggers think it’s okay to use your information without asking, and then get upset if you ask for it to be removed? And then badmouth you to others in your specific disease community? (yeah, that happened a while back)
Why is it okay for people to dismiss your feelings?
Why is it okay for people to push positivity in ways that end up bullying those of us who don’t?
Why is it okay for people to discuss their own mental health issues and then belittle others for doing so?
Why do we demand explanations from each other?
Why do we make each other feel like explanations or issues aren’t worth crap?
Why do we talk to each other with disdain or in short sentences or dismissively instead of supportively?
Why are those who are physically active bullied for being able to do so? Why are those who aren’t able to be physically active told their contributing to their disease and essentially being called lazy?
Why do we treat each other poorly enough that some give up advocacy or blogging or being active in our communities?
I feel like this all boils down to a lack of respect, empathy, and compassion. Honestly, I’m so tired of it.
Maybe there are a lot of people out there who don’t know what these words mean?